Don’t Try to Change Everything at Once
September 14, 2026
Principles taken from Child-Parent Relationship Training by Sue Bratton and Garry Landreth
Often, parents get excited about some new parenting advice. They’re sure this will “fix” everything. They jump in enthusiastically and make changes. This comes from a good place.
However, kids are often resistant. It’s overwhelming, and they don’t trust the new plan. Here are three ideas for creating buy-in as you make changes to your parenting.
- One change at a time.
Keep it simple. Change just one thing and keep it consistent. I recommend starting with reflective responding. This is also called declarative language. You observe and state facts in a neutral tone of voice. Use this skill for about a week or two before adding another change.
Keep it simple. Change just one thing and keep it consistent. I recommend starting with reflective responding. This is also called declarative language. You observe and state facts in a neutral tone of voice. Use this skill for about a week or two before adding another change.
- Admit mistakes.
Change is hard. You will not be perfect and that’s OK! Be humble and admit when you blow it.
- Try again.
Don’t give up. Persistence pays off! The changes you are making will have lasting results as your relationship with your child heals and becomes more secure. It’s worth the effort. I promise.
